Your wedding day may pass in the blink of an eye— but the photographs will last forever. From the nervous excitement of getting ready to the quiet joy of your first look, from the kiss to the dance floor, the right photographer will preserve it all in images that become part of your family’s story. But how do you go about choosing a wedding photographer that you’ll love? How do you choose the person to capture those special memories?
We turned to one of the industry’s most beloved photographers, Elizabeth Messina, whose luminous, romantic style is recognized worldwide and has been featured in countless publications. Here, she shares what every couple should consider when searching for their wedding photographer and how to find someone who’s not only skilled, but truly the right fit for your day.
Keep scrolling to read what Elizabeth Messina advises when choosing a wedding photographer.
Start With the Work
First things first: Do you love their photographs? It may sound obvious, but it’s one of the most important questions you can ask yourself.
“Really take your time to look through a photographer’s website,” Messina advises. Don’t just glance at a few highlights. Scroll through full wedding galleries if available. Are you drawn to their use of light? The emotions they capture? The quiet in-between moments as much as the big ones?
And remember: loving the dress in a photo is not the same as loving how the photographer captured the dress. Look for consistency, storytelling, and beauty in the full body of their work.
If you can imagine yourself in their photos—and you feel something when looking at them—that’s a great sign.
Trust Your Taste
Your best friend might be obsessed with her wedding photographer, or your sister might suggest someone she loved, but photography is a deeply personal art form. What moves one person may not resonate with you.
“A wedding is perhaps one of the most personal events in your life,” Messina says. “Choose a photographer whose images you love— not just one who comes highly recommended.”
Take time to reflect on your own preferences. Do you love soft, film-inspired imagery? Bold, editorial shots? True-to-life color or dreamy, romantic tones? When you trust your own taste and instincts, you’re more likely to choose someone who aligns with your vision and to love the results.
Make a Connection
Once you’ve found photographers whose work you admire, reach out. Introduce yourself, ask questions, and see how it feels to connect. Whether it’s through email, phone, or video chat, this initial interaction is incredibly telling.
“Meeting in person is wonderful when possible,” Messina says, “but even a thoughtful conversation can help you get a sense of their energy and style.”
This matters more than you might think when choosing a wedding photographer. A photographer is by your side throughout nearly your entire wedding day in some of the most emotional, vulnerable, and intimate moments. The more at ease you feel around them, the more authentic and relaxed your photos will be.
Look for someone who listens, communicates clearly, and makes you feel calm and comfortable. If you feel a natural bond, trust that instinct— it will shine through in your photographs.
Include Them in Your Timeline
A talented photographer can capture beautiful moments in any setting, but giving them time and space to do their best work can make all the difference.
“Be sure to include your photographer in the timeline conversations for your wedding day,” Messina recommends. While your planner or coordinator will likely lead the scheduling, your photographer may have input that ensures nothing is rushed or overlooked.
For example, certain types of shots—like portraits in natural light or romantic golden hour images—require specific timing. Giving your photographer the opportunity to weigh in means they can be fully prepared to capture the images that matter most to you.
Pro tip: share your must-have moments and special details (heirlooms, stationery, sentimental touches) with your photographer ahead of time so they can plan accordingly.
Be Mindful of Your Budget
Photography is one of the most meaningful investments you’ll make in your wedding and while pricing can vary greatly, there are talented photographers at every price point.
“Be mindful of your budget,” Messina advises, “but also be patient and thoughtful in your search. You can find a photographer whose images you love and who fits within your budget.”
Ask photographers about their packages, what’s included, and whether they offer elopement or partial-day rates. Don’t be afraid to have an honest conversation. Many are willing to work with you to customize something that fits your needs.
And remember: you only need one photographer. Like your partner, the perfect match is out there— you just need to find the one that feels right for you.
It’s All About Trust
At the heart of it all, choosing a wedding photographer is about trust. You’re inviting someone into one of the most important days of your life— into your quietest, happiest, most heartfelt moments. You want someone who not only has the technical skill and artistic eye, but who also sees you, hears you, and honors your story.
Take your time. Trust your instincts. Ask the right questions. And when you find that person who makes you feel seen, safe, and celebrated… you’ll know.
With that connection in place, your photos won’t just be beautiful. They’ll be timeless.
This article was originally published in Tulle Magazine AW15.
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